Strut Your Stuff

Every Spring I treat myself to a new pair of heels, mainly nude heels. I think you can never have enough nude heels. When in doubt, buy nude. This Spring, however, I went a little overboard and purchased some colored heels as well *insert see-no-evil monkey emoji*. Like most women, I love accessories. I feel that I tend to love shoes and purses for the same reasons that other women do, but more so due to the fact that it’s the one thing I can’t make (don’t think the idea hasn’t crossed my mind though…in due time). When you can make your own clothes, you tend to splurge on accessories.

One topic that always seems to be a constant in women’s conversations is size and weight. No matter the age, amount of education, career success, or ethnic background of a woman, somehow we will find a way to broach the subject. I’ll have days too when I feel gross from eating way too many treats, so I get it. I’m not above the subject. It seems like no matter what size we are, though, we’re never happy. I am not here to judge, criticize, or point any fingers. What I do want is for all of us to start getting more comfortable in our own skin.

So how does my mini shoe shopping spree fit into all of this? Let me explain. Full disclosure – I have always disliked my feet. They’re wide. They’re huge. They’re not cute or dainty AT ALL. The thing about these three pairs that I purchased recently is that they are all different sizes. When one size didn’t fit, I sized down. When another pair was too tight, I sized up. I didn’t sit there and start hating myself, or my life, or my body, for not fitting into a specific shoe size. I just wanted cute shoes that fit right. I accepted my ugly-foot lot a long time ago. I know I have two options in life: either I never show my feet ever or I can accept them, buy cute shoes, get frequent pedicures, and strut my stuff. I always choose the latter.

We should try and apply this way of thinking when buying our clothing too. I’m not saying keep sizing up and up and up until you’ve spiraled into an unhealthy weight and lifestyle. I strongly believe in health first. Going up one size or down one size, however, isn’t the end of the world. Clothing size is just a unit of measure that makes shopping a little easier than if there were no sizes on a garment at all. It is not the end all be all. As I’ve mentioned before, manufacturers make clothing for hundreds of thousands of people in one sitting, and you are unique individuals. Going up one size, or even down, does not determine your worth as a human being. Your true inner confidence is your best accessory.

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Shoes: Sam Edelman, Azela (pink heels) – Vince Camuto, Sandria (nude heels) – Dolce Vita, Hazeley (red heels)

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Home Accents: Gold Tray, Candles, and Sofa are all from http://www.homegoods.com #homegoodshappy

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Little in the Middle

My intentions are totally not to wait this long between posts, but I must admit, there is a bit of a learning curve when doing anything new. In my case it’s getting the pictures right, learning about lighting, teaching myself simple editing, and even figuring out different poses that work best in my pictures. In my every day life I stick to my signature pose – also my only pose – hand on left hip, slightly turned in at an angle, and only taking pictures from my left side. Plus, how do people take pictures without smiling? Can somebody teach me? Let’s be real, that’s not me, I like smiling. *insert cheeseball smile here* Thus, it’s been some work learning (and getting used to) different angles of myself for pictures.

One thing that I have learned over the years, however, is proportions. What I mean by proportions is that we all tend to carry our weight differently. Most of the time we think of ourselves either in terms of a size, or just weight, but I think learning about how we are proportioned is a better way to get to know our bodies. This gives us a better understanding of how clothing will fit based on our own shape. There are certain styles that work better for people that carry their weight up top, down on the hips, or somewhere in the middle.

The further I go with the blog, the more I’ll discuss different body shapes and what can work for each, but for today I’ll show you what I think works for me. I am definitely bottom-heavy (triangle-shaped, spoon shaped…whatever you want to label yourself). This means that I carry most of my weight on my hips, booty, and thighs. In terms of proportions, my middle is where I carry the least amount of my weight. This doesn’t mean I have a small waist by any means, or even a thin waist, it just means that relative to my bust and hips, it’s the smallest point. Knowing this, I try to direct the focus to my waist.

I love any skirt that lands exactly at my smallest waist point. Another thing I love is a full skirt…and a full skirt to wear in Fairytale Lane? Well, that’s just cake! One plus of making my own custom items for the blog before I place them in my Etsy shop is working out any design details. I realized that the waist does stretch out with wear, so adding an elastic waistband to the final sample will create a better fit for all. I will work out this detail before I post the listing. In the meantime, you can take a look at the pictures of my short day trip to the adorable little town of Solvang from a couple of weeks ago.

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Skirt: in my lozasun Etsy shop soon, Shoes: Vince Camuto, Tote: Rebecca Minkoff (from 3 years ago)